Frustration! I am not the only Non-Lawyer spouse who experiences difficulties! Why is it so hard to be married to a lawyer? At the end of this article there is a book suggested by the author to purchase. I did purchase that book three years ago prior to getting married, and what I read about the potential relationship dynamics between a lawyer and non-lawyer married couple sounded pretty bleak. I felt that due to my self-awareness and our loving bond that I would be able to understand his perspective and how taxing his career is on his emotional well-being; however, that is much harder than I could have ever imagined, and I am finding that our home life has become Law and Disorder. –awanon

Marry a Lawyer? Proceed With Caution

By Dr. Fiona Travis

In recent years, some of America’s most popular TV programs and films depicted lawyers winning in court but losing in love. A distortion of reality, or do lawyers really have problems building and sustaining relationships? Regrettably, the image is accurate.

It’s not that lawyers lack relationship-building skills. But, overworked, overburdened and squeezed by time – and now, the worst downturn in two decades – lawyers do exhibit communication and intimacy breakdowns peculiar to their education, their professional training and work environment.

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Rules of Marriage

No society gives absolute freedom to its members to select their partners. Endogamy and exogamy are the two main rules that condition marital choice.

Endogamy:
It is a rule of marriage in which the life-partners are to be selected within the group. It is marriage within the group and the group may be caste, class, tribe, race, village, religious group etc. We have caste endogamy, class endogamy, sub caste endogamy, race endogamy, and tribal endogamy etc. In caste endogamy marriage has to take place within the caste. Brahmin has to marry a Brahmin. In sub caste endogamy, it is limited to the sub caste groups.

Exogamy:
It is a rule of marriage in which an individual has to marry outside his own group. It prohibits marrying within the group. The so-called blood relatives shall neither have marital connections nor sexual contacts among themselves.

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