Frustration! I am not the only Non-Lawyer spouse who experiences difficulties! Why is it so hard to be married to a lawyer? At the end of this article there is a book suggested by the author to purchase. I did purchase that book three years ago prior to getting married, and what I read about the potential relationship dynamics between a lawyer and non-lawyer married couple sounded pretty bleak. I felt that due to my self-awareness and our loving bond that I would be able to understand his perspective and how taxing his career is on his emotional well-being; however, that is much harder than I could have ever imagined, and I am finding that our home life has become Law and Disorder. –awanon

Marry a Lawyer? Proceed With Caution

By Dr. Fiona Travis

In recent years, some of America’s most popular TV programs and films depicted lawyers winning in court but losing in love. A distortion of reality, or do lawyers really have problems building and sustaining relationships? Regrettably, the image is accurate.

It’s not that lawyers lack relationship-building skills. But, overworked, overburdened and squeezed by time – and now, the worst downturn in two decades – lawyers do exhibit communication and intimacy breakdowns peculiar to their education, their professional training and work environment.

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Rule #1 – Do Your Legal Homework*

Marriage Laws of the Fifty States, District of Columbia and Puerto Rico


This table links to the marriage laws of the states and attempts to summarize some of their salient points. Those interested in the marriage law of a particular jurisdiction should review its law directly rather than rely on this summary which may not be fully accurate or complete.

Related LII materials include:

Marriage

Definition

The legal union of a couple as spouses.  The basic elements of a marriage are: (1) the parties’ legal ability to marry each other, (2) mutual consent of the parties, and (3) a marriage contract as required by law.

See also Common-law marriage.

Overview

In the English common law tradition from which our legal doctrines and concepts have developed, a marriage was a contract based upon a voluntary private agreement by a man and a woman to become husband and wife. Marriage was viewed as the basis of the family unit and vital to the preservation of morals and civilization. Traditionally, the husband had a duty to provide a safe house, pay for necessities such as food and clothing, and live in the house. The wife’s obligations were maintaining a home, living in the home, having sexual relations with her husband, and rearing the couple’s children. Today, the underlying concept that marriage is a legal contract still remains, but due to changes in society the legal obligations are not the same.

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